Tag: Loneliness

At the beginning of April I set the intention to have a face-to-face interaction with each of my 24 neighbors. But as April turned into May I still hadn’t taken action on my challenge. Quite simply, I was scared. Not because I suspected by neighbors were incinerating bodies in the basement, but because I was afraid of violating the unspoken but very real norm of privacy, and the unmentioned, but very palpable code of silence that governed our community. In the face of engaging in a simple, but profoundly countercultural act, I completely froze.

According to sociologists, one of the clearest trends in Americans’ socializing habits over the past few decades has been a marked decline in the frequency with which we entertain in our homes. Could the fact that our attempts to connect happen largely outside our homes—separate from the epicenter of our lives—be a driver of our widespread loneliness? In March, I’ll try to find out.

Project Reconnect?

December 30, 2018

Project Reconnect is about awakening—to my own unmet need to connect and belong, and to the vibrant but latent relationships and communities all around me that are waiting to be activated.

About Project Reconnect

In 2019 I decided to spend a year engaging in a series of challenges designed to help me break out of an individualistic, self-focused mindset, and walk my way back to community, connection, and relationship. Each month I took on a new challenge, and wrote about what it is in our culture, habits, and daily lives that makes it so hard to connect.

My year-long journey was interrupted by the joy and challenge of becoming a mom again at age 40, right on the heels of which came Covid-19.

And so, in 2020, Project Reconnect continues—under circumstances that make experiencing deep connection feel more challenging and elusive than ever. As I continue to explore community in all its forms, I’m hoping I’ll find answers for myself, as well as for our deeply lonely, atomized, and divided nation.

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