So much of today’s rhetoric about community building has to do with creating spaces where people can gather. But the truth is that each of us has just such a space right in our own kitchen, living room, or back porch. We just have to find the courage and resolve to invite people in.
I’ve always wondered about the use of that word, “consummate,” especially its pairing with the word “host.” To the extent it implies perfection, I can’t make a claim to it. But given that its primary meaning as a verb is “to bring something to completion,” I’ve decided it just might fit.
One of the biggest challenges in hosting people in your home is finding ways to keep the conversation engaging. This month I’m exploring different conversation tools to help my guests move past small talk and experience a deeper sense of connection as they gather.
According to sociologists, one of the clearest trends in Americans’ socializing habits over the past few decades has been a marked decline in the frequency with which we entertain in our homes. Could the fact that our attempts to connect happen largely outside our homes—separate from the epicenter of our lives—be a driver of our widespread loneliness? In March, I’ll try to find out.