This month I took some time to really explore and experience what deep, close connection can and will feel like. Here are some lessons learned.
A phone number committed to memory. Knowing exactly how many stairs there were up to her bedroom. The smell of Spaghetti-O’s cooking in the microwave on a summer afternoon. To this day, a childhood relationship is how I measure a friendship. What does friendship mean to you?
We all have a superficial narrative about ourselves that we get in the habit of presenting to others. But what if I created a two-minute story aimed at maximum authenticity? What if I armed myself with a new narrative that could help turn a common introduction into a moment of self-revelation?
In our darkest hours, what each of us wants more than anything is to feel connected.
There’s a certain cool control to a person who never seems to need anything from anyone. We often think we admire this quality in others, but find ourselves hurt and frustrated when it forces us into the uncomfortable position of always being the one on the receiving end of help.
We are a nation of personal improvement fanatics chasing “measurable results” on treadmills—alone.
My challenge for February will be moving from connection to closeness. I’ll be exploring all kinds of different strategies, methods, and tools for creating more intimacy and depth in my relationships. But the most important path to intimacy is, of course, vulnerability.