Project Reconnect

A Journey Back to Relationship in a Fragmented World

At the beginning of April I set the intention to have a face-to-face interaction with each of my 24 neighbors. But as April turned into May I still hadn’t taken action on my challenge. Quite simply, I was scared. Not because I suspected by neighbors were incinerating bodies in the basement, but because I was afraid of violating the unspoken but very real norm of privacy, and the unmentioned, but very palpable code of silence that governed our community. In the face of engaging in a simple, but profoundly countercultural act, I completely froze.

The Consummate Host

March 29, 2019

I’ve always wondered about the use of that word, “consummate,” especially its pairing with the word “host.” To the extent it implies perfection, I can’t make a claim to it. But given that its primary meaning as a verb is “to bring something to completion,” I’ve decided it just might fit.

Tell Me More…

March 14, 2019

One of the biggest challenges in hosting people in your home is finding ways to keep the conversation engaging. This month I’m exploring different conversation tools to help my guests move past small talk and experience a deeper sense of connection as they gather.

About Project Reconnect

In 2019 I decided to spend a year engaging in a series of challenges designed to help me break out of an individualistic, self-focused mindset, and walk my way back to community, connection, and relationship. Each month I took on a new challenge, and wrote about what it is in our culture, habits, and daily lives that makes it so hard to connect.

My year-long journey was interrupted by the joy and challenge of becoming a mom again at age 40, right on the heels of which came Covid-19.

And so, in 2020, Project Reconnect continues—under circumstances that make experiencing deep connection feel more challenging and elusive than ever. As I continue to explore community in all its forms, I’m hoping I’ll find answers for myself, as well as for our deeply lonely, atomized, and divided nation.

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