The True Cure for LonelinessApril 11, 2019
By investing our hopes, our dollars, and the efforts of our best and brightest minds in developing a biochemical solution for loneliness, we are missing the mark in spectacular fashion.
We are a nation of personal improvement fanatics chasing “measurable results” on treadmills—alone.
Healing without sharing has been lonely. A good kind of lonely, maybe—the kind usually described with lovely-sounding words like “solitude” or “seclusion.” But lately it’s started to feel like my period of spiritual confinement might be coming to an end.
I lost my home, my community, my career, my confidence, my place in the world, my sense of purpose, and even my idealism—all in the first six months of 2015. And as I started to orient myself gently in the direction of healing, I made one commitment. I would follow my intuition, no matter where it led.
What is it about our culture, habits, and daily lives that makes it so hard to feel connected, enmeshed in supportive community, and whole?
I started Project Reconnect in 2019 to experiment with very personal and local ways to challenge and change the hyper-individualism that has created a crisis of loneliness and social fragmentation in America. As I have reviewed my pre-pandemic writing, I’ve been astonished at how resonant it feels as we look to a post-Covid future.
And so, Project Reconnect continues—under circumstances that make experiencing deep connection feel more challenging and elusive than ever. Today my ambitions are humbler, my approach a bit gentler, and my starting point more vulnerable, more raw. Indeed, what felt like an urgent endeavor in 2019 feels like a burning fire of need in 2021—both personally and collectively.
So join me–let’s reconnect.
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