The True Cure for LonelinessApril 11, 2019
By investing our hopes, our dollars, and the efforts of our best and brightest minds in developing a biochemical solution for loneliness, we are missing the mark in spectacular fashion.
We are a nation of personal improvement fanatics chasing “measurable results” on treadmills—alone.
Healing without sharing has been lonely. A good kind of lonely, maybe—the kind usually described with lovely-sounding words like “solitude” or “seclusion.” But lately it’s started to feel like my period of spiritual confinement might be coming to an end.
I lost my home, my community, my career, my confidence, my place in the world, my sense of purpose, and even my idealism—all in the first six months of 2015. And as I started to orient myself gently in the direction of healing, I made one commitment. I would follow my intuition, no matter where it led.
In 2019 I decided to spend a year engaging in a series of challenges designed to help me break out of an individualistic, self-focused mindset, and walk my way back to community, connection, and relationship. Each month I took on a new challenge, and wrote about what it is in our culture, habits, and daily lives that makes it so hard to connect.
My year-long journey was interrupted by the joy and challenge of becoming a mom again at age 40, right on the heels of which came Covid-19.
And so, in 2020, Project Reconnect continues—under circumstances that make experiencing deep connection feel more challenging and elusive than ever. As I continue to explore community in all its forms, I’m hoping I’ll find answers for myself, as well as for our deeply lonely, atomized, and divided nation.
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